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Thursday, December 3, 2015
AFTERTHOUGHTS to a SHOOTING
THE latest mass shooting in our midst, the 6th or 7th
this year alone, is undeniably mindboggling. Horribly bothersome.
More than we allow fear to overcome us—we must be more concerned
and then ponder and dig deeper beyond what seems to be a “no-brainer”
conclusion by so-called experts. “The one thing we do know is that
we have a pattern now of mass shootings in this country that has no
parallel anywhere else in the world," President Obama told CBS.
Hence, it is time that America looks within its house and see that
while “outside forces” (eg global terrorism) is an utmost agenda,
a growing swath of mayhem hisses like a dragon's ire right in our
it ideology, misguided “faith,” mental derangement, gun
proliferation? Certainly, society will provide answers. We all
provide our individual answers. But are these answers enough as
“bullet-proof vests” when the next carnage pummels again or are
these “professional” analyses suffice in convincing the public
that—yes, peace and quiet are still possible as each and everyone
pursue their own happiness in this beautiful land of promise,
freedom, endowments and dreams?
do believe we have lost the human ability to LISTEN and instead we
readily provide solutions that we feel could fix trouble areas like
we are all machines with generic remedies each time we malfunction.
We read and stereotype or box people's sentiments—especially
anger—as an acronynmed psychobabble that needs instant response.
And the only prescription for healing is a scholarly definition of
words. Maybe we should listen more WHY a person is angry or sad, or
why he/she keeps to him/herself more often than usual—instead of
googling words and automatically consigning one's rage as a mental
issue that needs to be addressed like its a cosmic freefall or a
computer that just conked out.
to the San Bernardino massacre, the gunman had an argument with
certain people—left and returned with his female partner in a hale
of bullets. It seemed that the shooting was pre-planned or
well-thought of. Which means, this man—relatively young, born in
the US and a 5-year employee with a job designation that calls for
steady interaction with people—has been harboring anger which
apparently evolved into hatred. A kind of hatred that drove him to
waste lives, including his and his partner, in deference of their
months-old child that they left. Whether it is a “lone wolf” act
by a disgruntled individual on a vendetta or mission to excise pain
as message to a society/government that he lost trust in or a
terroristic act of much wider proportions, still—these people lost
the ability or belief in anything except that they hate. They hate so
much that the only way to project it—is through killings and
God in any creed or culture admonishes or motivates its people to
nurture and nourish anger and then inflict pain unto others and
themselves. I don't believe that Jesus Christ or The Allah inspired
their children to take lives in order to solve darkness in this
world. These individuals who opted to walk the path of destruction
simply lost it. Evil gains entry in unattended anger, a hallow vacuum
of freezing cold. An anger that we failed to listen to because it is
displeasing, loud, and painful to the ears.
has its roots, it emanates from something—we must address the
source to be able to fix the outcome otherwise we may just be
applying temporal or wrong remedies to calm down ire. We cannot just
say, “Channel your anger!” or “Go seek counselling.” Those
help but we need a more intimate understanding WHY a person loses it,
what triggers the volcano in our chest to explode, and what is the
best way to deal with it.
believe the best and most effective way to deal with anger—before
it mutates into hatred—is to LISTEN with an intent to understand
than hear with a need to reply. We can't do such a thing via texting
or emails or phone calls. We must spend time together, be one as
community—irrelevant of what we term as diversity. We must look at
our common light and beauty than our differences as human beings.
Moreover, we must stop our narcissism and self-righteousness that we
can fix others by simply providing the “troubled ones” with cures
because that's how we see things. Maybe the person concerned knows
how to fix it, it's just that he has to be heard and listened to
first, to be able to acquire or receive tools how to rebuild peace
is not Honduras where more gun violence occurs or Beirut where bombs
fall in startling frequency. We must stop the comparisons. Deaths
need not be compared at all with other deaths. We just have to try
harder to prevent them as they happen in our midst. More so, America
should look within and around its backyard and find out the root of
what's ailing the homefront—instead of summoning experts with meds
to cushion the collective pain—and then we look at other nations
and cultures with a goal to correct them. We cannot fix others if we
ourselves are broken and need fixing. That humility will offer more
understanding and love for a better humanity. Love is not pronounced,
it doesn't fall from the sky either—it is a working project, it is
practiced than said. It all starts with listening—no matter that
the voice roars like thunder or sings like a bird. Stay, sit tight,
and listen—not with our ear but with our heart.